The possibilities included
- From: ?
- From: S.S.
- From: Secret Santa
- From: Santa
- From: Your Secret Santa
What worried her is that this is the Asian Student Association, and she's not sure how much the Vietnamese student whose name she drew knows about Christmas, because he's a recent immigrant.
She wanted to do the tag exactly the right way.
Sadly, I identify with this.
Oh, I'm not a fussbudget about tags anymore. I've come a long way from thinking I had to make them look as good as my mother's did, she of the beautiful handwriting. But I spend a lot of time examining my world and my work and feeling fairly certain that if I could just determine the right approach, all would be well.
This is, of course, a trap.
No, really. It is.
I never liked being told "Do the best you can." It felt like a command to always be the best, and I imagine it can also be heard as a limitation to a person who pictures her best to be on the low side of average. I've gone from being a kid who resented being asked to do well, as if that were the only reason I might be loved, to being an adult who strives to do well, as if that were the only reason I might be loved.
Yes, I see the problem there.
I suggested to LP, as I frequently do when I feel she is over-examining
her English homework or a social quandary, that she just decide and
move ahead. In some areas of life there are no perfect answers or
solutions. We stumble along in our full humanity, lacking secret
knowledge of who is actually naughty or nice, only knowing for sure
that we contain both, really we do.
If I could write a letter to a beneficent saint keeping a list and doling out gifts, I would request a flagon of anti-perfectionism this Christmas, flavored for mother and daughter.