Friday Five

Friday Five: Thanksgiving Thoughts

It's the RevGalBlogPals Friday Five, as posted by Jan!

The Cure

Lying around all day
with some strange new deep blue
weekend funk, I'm not really asleep
when my sister calls
to say she's just hung up
from talking with Aunt Bertha
who is 89 and ill but managing
to take care of Uncle Frank
who is completely bed ridden.
Aunt Bert says
it's snowing there in Arkansas,
on Catfish Lane, and she hasn't been
able to walk out to their mailbox.
She's been suffering
from a bad case of the mulleygrubs.
The cure for the mulleygrubs,
she tells my sister,
is to get up and bake a cake.
If that doesn't do it, put on a red dress.

–Ginger Andrews (from Hurricane Sisters)

So this Friday before Thanksgiving, think about Aunt Bert and how she'll celebrate Thanksgiving! And how about YOU?

1. What is your cure for the "mulleygrubs"?

A phone call to one of a short list of special people–you know who you are!

BaileyIslandBridge 2. Where will you be for Thanksgiving?

Pure Luck and I will go to his great-aunt's house on Orr's Island. His people have lived in that area for many generations. We'll stop at the little cemetery where his mother is buried. He grew up with not much but a hard-working mom and a supportive extended family and an older brother with dissimilar propensities and a Border Collie mix named Angel who kept both boys in the yard…and this view. Not many poor kids get that anymore.

I remember feeling nervous about going to the family Thanksgiving with him for the first time, wondering if the people I met would feel loyalty to the first wife or judge me for–oh, I don't know what. What I found was a warm embrace, and an invitation to say the blessing.

3. What foods will be served? Which are traditional for your family?

Very much the usual! Turkey, stuffing, green bean casserole, mashed potatoes, squash, cranberry jelly and pie, pie, pie!! My own menu has a few eccentricities that took Pure Luck by surprise, but those are for another year.

4. How do you feel about Thanksgiving as a holiday?

I love it. It's really my favorite, because it's about community and not about gifts. Last year I preached at a community service, and I would do that again anytime.

Over the years since my first marriage ended, I've spent a number of Thanksgivings without my children, and those are not as favorite, but we'll do something special on another night of the weekend. This is the first year my oldest will not be home for Thanksgiving, and that feels very, very different.

5. In this season of Thanksgiving, what are you grateful for?

I'm grateful that Pure Luck will be home, since that wasn't definite until about 48 hours ago. I'm grateful that even though #1 Son will be away, he'll be with his friends and housemates; I love it that he has a community that combines childhood friends and college friends. I'm grateful for a warm house and a good dog and children in good health.

Mostly, I'm grateful for love.

6 thoughts on “Friday Five: Thanksgiving Thoughts”

  1. Huzzah, Hooray, Huzzah! Pure Luck will be home! I’m so glad for you…
    I look forward to Thanksgivings someday during which I will happily preside over the feast and its preparations. I think back on huge, joyful feasts with a vast assortment of my mother’s mother’s people (Her father’s side of the family convened on the 4th of July). Now it’s just a frustrating event–I want to cook like crazy, but it feels wasteful with a household of two. Instead we go to the free community feast at FCS, and I try to focus on smiling and being social and enjoying lots of pie…but secretly this meal that should feel gracious just feels sad.

  2. I’m so glad Pure Luck will be home with you.
    And yeah, when the kids start “not” coming home, it definitely feels weird.
    Happy Thanksgiving!

  3. I’m glad to see the lucky guy will be home for Thanksgiving. We are having a low-key celebration with friends.

  4. “dissimilar propensities” – well said and a great descriptor.
    “Grateful for love.” – even better.

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