Marriage Equality

The Morning After

The Roman Catholic Diocese loaned its Public Affairs Director to the campaign against marriage equality, and last night he claimed to have been the little guy going up against the big guy.

There is a huge irony in people who suffered discrimination for being Catholic or for being Franco-American claiming their "little guy" roots as they work together to deny rights to another class of people.

It is, dare I say it, un-Christly.

(And in its definitions of traditional marriage, laughably un-Biblical.)

But these are the people whose Supreme Leader would deny women's call to ordained ministry, who is eagerly waiting to scoop up disaffected Anglicans around the world.

Don't be deceived. This attitude toward LGBT people is also an attitude toward women. It's institutionalized, and it's unloving.

My job this morning after is to find a way to love people who hate and fear.

Because love never fails.

I believe that. I have to believe that.

Four years ago we defeated a people's veto similar to this one, aimed at overturning a new law extending anti-discrimination rights to gay people. It was not the first campaign for, and against, those rights.

And this will not be the last effort to extend the right to marry to all people.

I'm angry this morning, but I believe that it's a message of love that will win in the end. And so I will pray, and get mad, and pray again. And strive to love.

22 thoughts on “The Morning After”

  1. Awakening to truths expressed of people’s hearts and egos, mornings and days of such challenges against human rights and dignity, somehow the words “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” touch closer on my heart and comprehension for the level of love that was (is)required.

  2. I feel like we are both standing at the foot of the cross. Thank you for your work and your faith. I hope you are right about love never failing. Right now I’m having trouble feeling it.

  3. Odd how fear makes people do mean and hateful things. Like this. Sad, sad. This will embolden those who would take more rights from the marginalized, whoever the marginalized are.

  4. I cannot believe that people can legislate hate in “God’s name” and do it with a straight face and clean heart.
    I am so sorry Martha. It makes me sad that my church, the church that is so proud of social justice, cannot see discrimination is wrong.

  5. I am so sad; I ignorantly assumed people would vote for love.
    On the other side of the country, there is good news for gay couples in WA State–Ref. 71 passed, narrowly. That’s where my daughter and her partner live, so I am glad.

  6. Here in California we went through the same feelings a year ago when Prop 8 passed. I, too, believed people would vote for love. We continue to work for equality, to preach equality and to stand up in our various ways against discrimination. Some clergy folks will not perform weddings at all. I will perform the ceremony, but I won’t sign a marriage license until I can sign them for everyone. We are working toward putting the issue back on the ballot next year, and are spending a lot of time and money on education.
    Love never fails. It just seems to take a long time, sometimes.

  7. yes. change, justice…mercy….incremental, but I believe with you in love. amen.

  8. I would suggest that we all, by the mere coincidence of being human, are “people who hate and fear.
    When I embrace and forgive my own faults, it is so much easier to embrace and forgive those whose faults I find abhorrent.

  9. Dear Songbird: I sort-of fell of the face of the earth a while back but I just knew I needed to check back in w/ you when I heard the news today about Maine–I knew that you would be one of the people that cared what happened w/ Prop1. I agree totally that the treatment of women and the treatment of gays and lesbians are closely linked. I am not surprised and quite disgusted to hear that the RC’s did what they did. But mainly, I stand with you in the pain and disappointment of this outcome. I am proud to be your sister in the ministry. And love will prevail. Of that I am convinced…

  10. If the Civil Rights bill had been put up to a vote of the people at the time, it most likely would not have passed given the social climate.
    When it comes to issues of human justice, there must be a higher authority – other than the Catholic Church.
    It is a sad day when myths disguised as truth and fear tactics disguised as protecting our children, can win the day over justice, equality, and love.
    My gratitude to those special families who told their stories on television in support of No on 1. It is time we learned that they are human beings, not political issues.
    I do believe there is hope if we continue to name the injustice and pray that love and respect for human dignity will light our path.

  11. “I’m angry this morning, but I believe that it’s a message of love that will win in the end. And so I will pray, and get mad, and pray again. And strive to love.”
    Well said. That’s what we’re called to do, no matter the issue. But how hard it is, when love is still denied.

  12. I am sorry. Please know that not all Roman Catholics are in agreement with the official stance put forth by the Church. I am one such Catholic. I believe the Church is wrong on this matter. I hope and pray that the hearts and minds of the Church leadership will change someday and come to embrace the idea of gay marriage. After all, the real issue here involves love – the giving over of one’s heart to another – and that is a gift too precious to deny.

  13. I think it’s ok to be angry…and to work for the day when love will prevail.

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