Friday Five

Friday Five: Friends

Many thanks to Jan at Yearning for God, who is taking my place with the RevGalBlogPals' Friday Five and doing her first one this week!

Converse-1 shoes friends Ever since I found out I could be the hostess for the third Friday Five
of each month, I have not been able to get the thought of friends out
of my mind. Being an only child (all growed up) who moved around a lot
in my lifetime, friends have always been very important to me. As Ralph
Waldo Emerson once wrote: "The way to have a friend is to be a friend."

So
today let's write about the different kinds of friends we have, like
childhood friends, lost friends, tennis friends, work friends, and the
list goes on. List 5 different types of friends you have had in your life and what they were/are like.

1. Phone-a-friends — sometimes these are longtime friends, and sometimes more recent, but they're the people I reach out and touch when I can't figure out what I ought to do, or when I'm lonely or frustrated, or when I have a funny story to tell that just can't be told anywhere else. Some of those people read my blog, and some of them don't. The blog-readers include Ruby, who I've known since I was a little girl, and St. Casserole, who I met because of blogging.

2. Situational friends — we've all had them, the people we meet on the playground, or in a class, or at the dog park, people we start to look forward to seeing, whose patterns of attendance we notice and hope we'll run into them again. Sometimes they turn into a real friend, one who bridges the categories. Others wax and wane depending on schedules and seasons of the year. I don't see the women from my long ago Tuesday morning Bible Study at Large Church very often anymore, but when I run into them, it's Old Home Week.

3. Work friends — Slightly different than Situational Friends, these are people I've met at a job. Now I call them colleagues, but back in the day of working at the Wythe Candy and Gourmet Shoppe, my language was less lofty. As a pastor, I'm especially grateful for the colleagues who have become true friends. (Wise Cellist, especially, especially you, if you should read this!!)

4. Guy friends — I'm always glad to have a Guy Friend who is really just that. I've been lucky they've been in my life along the way. These days the best one is also a colleague. I like hearing his perspective on things (although his jokes are often silly).

5. Online friends — Going back to the days of Usenet and continuing through more than five years of blogging, I've had friends online. Heck, I met my husband online! Now I'm reconnecting with old friends via Facebook, too, people I knew in high school and even elementary school. It feels like coming full circle. The Internet allows me to maintain and even deepen relationships that don't have a large "in person" component. I've had the blessing of Kathryn at Good in Parts in my life for over four years now, and we've met in person twice, in 2007 in England and at the BE last year, but who knows when we will meet again? What I do know is that it won't be long before we chat online or exchange emails, and I am grateful for the technology that keeps us close.

As a bonus, put a link to a new (to you) blogging friend and introduce us!

At the RevGalBlogPals Big Event 2.0, I met a new friend in person, and although she wasn't the only person I met for the first time she is one of those rare creatures, a UCC colleague who is also a blogger. I hope you'll go and visit Karla at her blog earthensoul. I had a feeling from her blog (and the number of pets in her household!) that we would be simpatico, and we surely were. Happily, we live near enough to each other that we've already met for lunch once!

9 thoughts on “Friday Five: Friends”

  1. I’m really terrible at phoning. But maybe your post will remind me that I owe some phone calls to friends that I don’t see some much. Thanks

  2. Like Joanna, I’m terrible about phoning–except for my “telephone friend”. I like the term “situational” friends–that truly describes certain ones, which lets go of the guilt when the “situation” ceases and we’re friends no longer. Thanks for the links, especially the new one at the bottom. When I have more time, I’ll look.

  3. I love this! Your categories are great and I could relate to them all, even if the work one is a distant memory.

  4. I have a couple of guy friends who as you say, are just that, two of them are folk I trained with, we will probably always be friends, they blog too, so it is a good way to keep in touch.

  5. I like your term ‘situational friends’. That describes that “category” very well!

  6. ahhhhwww…and I didn’t play. If I had, you would be on my FF friends, too!!! Thanks for the shout-out– and oh yes, lunch again!

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