16 thoughts on “One Right Move, or No Wrong Moves”

  1. Faithful to the process, for ever erring humans like me, is the only way. I can guarantee that, for every “right” move, I will make a wrong move or five no matter what I am trying to do. And the micro percentage of times that I haven’t were total flukes. But most often it’s in those wrong moves that I learn far more than I ever would have otherwise.
    And how many times does an apparently “wrong” move turn out to be just the thing? I have so many examples just from this month of this.

  2. I don’t know. I don’t think I ever will. But I do know this: as you may have noticed with my blog, one of my favorite prayrs is: Oh God of second chances and new beginnings, here I am again.” Peace and joy and goodness shine on you as you find your way.

  3. I think it requires true, gut-wrenching honesty throughout the process. Really, truly listening to your heart. Only then, can you “know.” If anything about it seems unsure, it’s time to acknowledge the niggling with honesty.

  4. I believe there can be many right moves.
    But I also believe there are wrong moves. Can God use those situations? Should the reality of wrong moves paralyze us? Yes to the first, no to the second. But there are still actions we take that unnecessarily hurt others or ourselves no matter how careful our discernment might have been.

  5. There’s definitely not just ONE right move, though there are wrong moves that God (sort of like GPS) will have to recalculate.
    In my (admittedly limited) experience, there are often multiple right moves and sometimes multiple wrong ones.
    How was that for not at all helpful?

  6. I’m with you on this one. I want to trust that the gut feeling I have is from God. At the same time, making sound decisions for my family and our income seems fairly important. Then again, do you ever reduce it to “they want me so I must want them and God must want this”?
    On my better days this is what I believe: there are no wrong decisions. God works through the good and the bad to shape me into the person I am becoming. God can use me wherever I am. Like you said, that “trust the process” thing.
    On my best days I trust that the wildest dreams I could ever imagine aren’t nearly as wild as the dreams God has for me, and that this completely unfathomable thing in front of me just might be one of God’s dreams – so I hold my breath and close my eyes and I jump.
    And on my worst days (like this week)? I wonder what career I’d like to try next.

  7. A good question for me today.
    Sometimes the answer’s so clear, even if surprising. Other times, not so much. But I do believe that “all things work together for good.” Teri talks about God “recalculating” (what a great image), and that makes me think that discernment is like orienteering. Rarely do you take a straight path through the woods but make incremental decisions that lead you this way and that. If (and that is often a big if) I trust that God is with me in the whole process, then I can trust that I’ll eventually get where I’m going.

  8. Wow, what a good question. I’m not sure we can ever answer it on the discerning side of things, only in hindsight. I agree with the other commenters that I don’t think there is one right move and all other moves are wrong. But there probably are some that are more wrong than others. But if we wait around trying to discern the one “right” move, we just don’t do anything, which is of course a move in and of itself. Trusting that God can use me whatever bone-headed decision I make is all that keeps me going some days.

  9. I have been part of church meetings where discernment was the byword (of the decade) and sometimes it did seem to work or did it? I look back and wonder if my deep discernment was just part of wanting to be part of the group and accepted….
    Enough of that, personally I do have trouble teasing out real discernment from my gut feelings. Like a post before mine said – it can slow you down, so you do nothing – busy discerning while life goes by.
    I had a counselor once who gave me some great advice and I use it over and over (I had come to a very big fork in the road – which way to go?). He said – do what your heart (and mind) is telling you, just go for it. If it doesn’t work out, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, take responsibility for your part in it (and only your part) and look to God for help to move on. In the case I am talking about it worked out for me, but in other cases I have had to follow my wise counselor….

  10. I think that in discernment, there might be ‘wrong’ moves if we aren’t listening to the voices we need to be. Otherwise, would it truly be discernment? I guess maybe that’s what you mean about being faithful to the process.
    At the same time though, I think there can be multiple, multiple ‘right’ moves. I don’t know if there is such a thing as only ONE ‘right’ move.
    Just my two cents.

  11. I don’t think there’s every only one right move, and while there may well be totally wrong moves, there’s a lot inbetween, where you can make of the move something great, or not great. The trick is figuring out what seems simply uncomfortable b/c it’s new or different, vs. what seems uncomfortable b/c it’s wrong. Big changes always seem to require a leap of faith at some level, no?

  12. I’ve come to believe, because of free will, that there are always several decisions one can make…I think God says, “OK, I have brought you thus far, now you have a choice to make….choose one and where ever you choose, what ever you choose, I will go with you.”
    On the one hand this way of thinking eliminates the idea that there is ONE right way God would like me to go/do…
    On the hand, I have to decide what I want…WHAT I WANT…sigh (and then hope others come to the same conclusion)…

  13. Never only one right move…I’m as sure of that as I can possibly be…but yes, we need to listen faithfully along the way, because there will be times when we yearn for one direction that isn’t the right one at all. Letting go of those feelings to enable us to hear properly is oh, so hard at times.
    I’m with thankyadarlin fair and square, I think.

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